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Tough Topics to Discuss

This guide offers resources for topics that may be difficult to discuss. It includes books, ebooks, videos, college resources and community links.

EBooks available to read online:

Respectful Relationships

Respectful Relationships

This book presents advice for young people on how to develop skills to negotiate relationship needs respectfully and safely in partner relationships, friendships and family relationships.

Aspergers in Love

Aspergers in Love

Asperger Syndrome (AS) has often been considered to be incompatible with love and relationships, but as the number of people who are diagnosed with the disorder increases, it is becoming apparent that people with AS can and do have full and intimate relationships. Comparing and contrasting both AS and non-AS partners' viewpoints, this book frankly examines the fundamental aspects of relationships that are often complicated by the disorder.

Hanging Out in the Virtual Pub

Hanging Out in the Virtual Pub

Lori Kendall examines how men and women negotiate their gender roles on an online forum she calls BlueSky. The result is an analysis of the emerging social phenomenon of Internet-mediated communication and a ground-breaking study of the social and cultural effects of a medium that allows participants to assume identities of their own choosing. 

Overcoming Bias

Overcoming Bias

Everybody's biased. We all harbor unconscious assumptions that can get in the way of our good intentions and keep us from building authentic relationships with people different from ourselves. The authors use vivid stories and fun exercises and activities to help us reflect on our personal experiences and uncover how our hidden biases are formed. By becoming more self-aware, we can control knee-jerk reactions, conquer fears of the unknown, and prevail over closed-mindedness. 

Reading the Bromance

Reading the Bromance

This book discusses how the concept of "bromance" emerged as a term denoting an emotionally intense bond between straight men. The book analyses films ranging from I Love You, Man to Superbad, Humpday, I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry, The Hangover, and the Jackass films, and include studies of representative examples in international cinema. It also examines the increasingly prevalent appearance of the bromance phenomenon in television narratives, from the "male bonding" rituals of Friends and Seinfeld to more recent manifestations of The Wire and the MTV reality series Bromance.

Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder) and Long-Term Relationships

Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder) and Long-Term Relationships

Happily married to her husband with Asperger Syndrome for 25 years, Ashley Stanford is an expert on how Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) can affect a relationship. Brought fully up to date, this second edition clarifies the new DSM-5 diagnostic criteria and explains how, without a solid awareness of the condition, ASD behaviors can easily be misinterpreted. Stanford's book provides a wealth of strategies for living with the more uncompromising aspects of ASD, pointing out that ASD also brings enormous strengths to a relationship.

The Abusive Personality

The Abusive Personality

This book provides a framework for understanding and treating intimate partner violence. Integrating a variety of theoretical and empirical perspectives, Donald G. Dutton demonstrates that male abusiveness is more than just a learned pattern of behavior--it is the outgrowth of a particular personality configuration. 

Books available from the Evelyn S. Field Library:

Books on relationships can be found in the library collection upstairs in the following section:
HQ743  This section is focused on help for different issues with relationships.
HQ801 This section is focused on different types of relationships.
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

In this classic guide to understanding the opposite sex, Dr. John Gray provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication by acknowledging the differences between their needs, desires, and behaviors. 

Interracial Relationships

Interracial Relationships

How much of an impact does family intolerance play in interracial marriages? How does the entertainment industry impact society's views on interracial relationships? Are teens and young adults significantly more open minded about issues surrounding interracial relationships than their parents? This anthology tackles this topic with a wide lens. Includes primary and secondary sources from a variety of perspectives; eyewitnesses, scientific journals, government officials, and many others.

Pornified

Pornified

Porn in America is everywhere - not just in cybersex and Playboy but in popular video games, advice columns, and reality television shows, and on the bestseller lists. Even more striking, as porn has become affordable, accessible, and anonymous, it has become increasingly acceptable - and a big part of the personal lives of many men and women. In this controversial and critically acclaimed book, Pamela Paul argues that as porn becomes more pervasive, it is destroying our marriages and families as well as distorting our children's ideas of sex and sexuality. 

When Boys Become Boys

When Boys Become Boys

Based on a two-year study that followed boys from pre-kindergarten through first grade, When Boys Become Boys offers a new way of thinking about boys' development. Through focusing on a critical moment of transition in boys' lives, Judy Y. Chu reveals boys' early ability to be emotionally perceptive, articulate, and responsive in their relationships, and how these "feminine" qualities become less apparent as boys learn to prove that they are boys primarily by showing that they are not girls. 

Renegotiating Family Relationships, Second Edition

Renegotiating Family Relationships, Second Edition

Long recognized as the authoritative guide for clinicians working with divorcing families, this book presents crucial concepts, strategies, and intervention techniques. Robert E. Emery describes how to help parents navigate the emotional and legal hurdles of this painful family transition while protecting their children's well-being.